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~ MiMi ~
19-08-2022 - 04:13 pm
  1. your bank account.


State of Mind
Happiness is ephemeral, subject to the vagaries of everything from the weather to the size of

your bank account.

We're not suggesting that you can reach a permanent state called "happiness" and remain there. But there are many ways to swerve off the path of anxiety, anger, frustration, and sadness into a state of happiness once or even several times throughout the day. Here are 10 ideas to get you started. Choose the ones that work for you. If tuning out the news or making lists will serve only to stress you further, try another approach.
1.Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now -- the food, the company, the conversation.
2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine, tested 16 men who all agreed they thought a certain videotape was funny. Half were told three days in advance they would watch it. They started experiencing biological changes right away. When they actually watched the video, their levels of stress hormones dropped significantly, while their endorphin levels rose 27 percent and their growth hormone levels (indicating benefit to the immune system) rose 87 percent.
3. Go to sleep. We have become a nation of sleep-deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book -- and turning the light out an hour later -- can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.
4. Hum along . Music soothes more than the savage beast. Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness -- the same parts activated by food or ***. It's also relaxing. In one study older adults who listened to their choice of music during outpatient eye surgery had significantly lower heart rates, blood pressure, and cardiac workload (that is, their heart didn't have to work as hard) as those who had silent surgery.
5. Declutter. It's nearly impossible to meditate, breathe deeply, or simply relax when every surface is covered with papers and bills and magazines, your cabinets bulge, and you haven't balanced your checkbook in six months. Plus, the repetitive nature of certain cleaning tasks -- such as sweeping, wiping, and scrubbing -- can be meditative in and of itself if you focus on what you're doing.
6. Just say no. Eliminate activities that aren't necessary and that you don't enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the church bazaar and you're feeling stressed by the thought of running the committee for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.
7. Make a list. There's nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.
8. Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you're writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.
9. Garden. Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.
0- Tune out the news. For one week go without reading the newspaper, watching the news, or scanning the headlines online. Instead, take a vacation from the misery we're exposed to every day via the media and use that time for a walk, a meditation session, or to write in your journal.


التعليقات (6)
هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
Those can sure help....
But I beg to differ, sister, everybody knows that happiness is a state of the heart not the mind, would you agree with me on that, sister
Everything must go through the heart.
.If you're happy, that means you heart is intanct

~ MiMi ~
~ MiMi ~
Yep .. but its not always about feelings my dear
sometimes , you have to do something to be more happier
like changing your routine , or being a positive thinker , or maybe try different things in life
which will probably give you the opportunities to figure out different ways of happiness
Personally , I cannot lay on my heart to be happy . I have to learn to be happy
by following some advices or changing my life style
and above all that .. strength up my faith and being a good Muslim
^_^

هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
Okey, I can try what you suggested,
change the rutine, learn to be a positive thinker, but that would only help things get better. You know, it doesn't go deep to the meaning of happiness.
And about it being a state of mind, again, I believe that it's our heart that control all our emotoins...
If you think about changing the rutine...that means you've been thinking that your life is a bit systematic..boring..so you feel like organizing your life..making plans..making self-promises ..and all those are feeling....driven by the heart..
Most surely, verything..and I mean everything we are..is because of our hearts.
The proof is from the Quran, Allah said so:
قال الله تعالى:
{وَلَقَدْ ذَرَأْنَا لِجَهَنَّمَ كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الْجِنِّ وَالْإِنسِ لَهُمْ قُلُوبٌ لَّا يَفْقَهُونَ بِهَا وَلَهُمْ أَعْيُنٌ لَّا يُبْصِرُونَ بِهَا وَلَهُمْ آذَانٌ لَّا يَسْمَعُونَ بِهَا أُولَ ئِكَ كَالْأَنْعَامِ بَلْ هُمْ أَضَلُّ أُولَ ئِكَ هُمُ الْغَافِلُونَ }
And certainly We have created for hell many of the jinn and the men; t hey have hearts with which they do not understand, and they have eyes with which they do not see, and they have ears with which they do not hear; they are as cattle, nay, they are in worse errors; these are the heedless ones. (179)
...
I say Allah is the creator and he knows better. : )

هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
Through out the Quran Allah only mentions the heart being the control center, not the mind, also the prophet-peace and blessings of Allah be upon him- said so:
( ألا وإن في الجسد مضغة إذا صلحت صلح الجسد كله ، وإذا فسدت فسد الجسد كله ، ألا وهي القلب ) رواه البخاري ومسلم.
another Ayah
أُولَ ئِكَ الَّذِينَ يَعْلَمُ اللَّهُ مَا فِي قُلُوبِهِمْ فَأَعْرِضْ عَنْهُمْ وَعِظْهُمْ وَقُل لَّهُمْ فِي أَنفُسِهِمْ قَوْلًا بَلِيغًا
These are they of whom Allah knows what is in their hearts; therefore turn aside from them and admonish them, and speak to them effectual words concerning themselves. (63)
Doesn't it mean that Allah knows what they're thinking, doesn't it mean that it's all coming from the heart.
........
shall we look at another noble ayah:
Is it not clear to those who inherit the earth after its (former) residents that if We please We would afflict them on account of their faults and set a seal on their hearts so they would not hear . (100)
أَوَلَمْ يَهْدِ لِلَّذِينَ يَرِثُونَ الْأَرْضَ مِن بَعْدِ أَهْلِهَا أَن لَّوْ نَشَاءُ أَصَبْنَاهُم بِذُنُوبِهِمْ وَنَطْبَعُ عَلَى قُلُوبِهِمْ فَهُمْ لَا يَسْمَعُونَ
Not once did Allah mention that it's the mind that control us..

~ MiMi ~
~ MiMi ~
And still .. we can follow some advices and change things to be happier
all what u said up there .. is true .. nobody said its not !!
But simply , its not a crime to try other things in life
which may drive anyone to be better person .. happier than ever
Personally , I do follow some advices and it wont kill me after all
and I don't want really to argue about couple of good advices which may or may not help anyone
Anyways ...
Thanks for passing by sister
^_^

هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
هيفاء-معلمة لغة انجليزية
Oh, okey, that's a mere conversation not argument.
lol

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